AUTHOR: tbooty DATE: 9/10/2004 07:44:00 PM ----- BODY: ok people. i am truly in need of some advice on how to handle something. i've asked my "real world" friends and gotten various answers, so i thought i'd talk about it here and see what you guys had to say. my parents are building a house and have a couple of guys come on the weekends to help out. these guys are getting paid to do this. due to the multiple people using nail guns at the same time, there was a point in time when they were routinely tripping the circuit breaker. when this happened, the breaker would need to be re-set. the box for the breaker is in my room. so whoever is home usually gets a knock on the door and a "can you flip the breaker?". a few months ago, if one of the family wasn't home, the door would be left unlocked so the guys could come in and flip the breaker themselves so that they could keep working. no big deal. one of the guys (i'll call him "freak") is married, has kids, is probably in his 40's, and even if he was available, would have NO CHANCE IN HELL with me. get the picture? ok. so, 4th of july weekend my friend got married. it was a formal/semi-formal wedding so i took the opportunity to get all dolled up. "freak" saw me when i left the house and said something like "you look like a million bucks." now, i don't do compliments well. i never have. i've been trying to work on it, so i smiled, nodded my head and mumbled thanks. no big thang, right? ok. 3 weeks later, i was the only one home on saturday afternoon when the breaker needed to be flipped. "freak" knocked on the door and made the request. he followed me into my room. (which is on the ground floor, not very far from the front door.) the box is on the back wall and the easiest way to get to it is to kneel onto the bed. since it's my bed, i was standing on it to get to the switch. i figured that he followed me in to make sure that i knew which one to flip. i did. he says "i just wanted to tell you that you looked real nice when you went to that wedding." ok. a compliment "in the moment" is fine. one 3 fucking weeks later? is starting to freak me out a little bit and is starting to sound a little stalkerish, no? a few weeks after that, as i was gathering my things for my birthday party at the casino (overnight bag, dress i was going to wear, etc.) "freak" saw me and made a comment about the dress that i was going to wear. i can't remember exactly what it was, but i ignored him. now, my parents normally pay the guys the same day that they work. since by this point i had mentioned to my parents that i was NOT comfortable around "freak" that i would really appreciate it if they could figure out some kind of payment schedule for when my parents were out of town. (which is this week) you see, i didn't want to have to deal with "freak" or any of the other guys, nor did i want to feel as if i was tethered to the house on the weekends. my parents made a payment arrangement. great i thought! won't have to deal with him at all while they're gone. wrong answer. so tuesday i'm getting ready to leave for the meeting i had to go to. i walk out of the house and just as i do, i hear the compressor kick in. (this means that someone is there to work, since they need that for the nail guns to work.) it's "freak". of course. lucky me. so, i'm dressed in work wear. black rayon pants (slightly loose fitting) and a tank top from target. (this tank top doesn't show anything. it's not even really a tank top. more of a sleeveless shirt) i'm walking to the car and i hear a fucking wolf whistle! wtf is up with that shit??? i'm at my own damn HOME and i'm getting wolf whistled at? i was seriously pissed off. i turned and glared at him, but i don't know how effective that was seeing as how i had my sunglasses on. so, here's my question. what the fuck do i do about this? do i continue to ignore him and tell my parents about this when they return? do i confront him and tell him to leave me the fuck alone? do i pretend none of it has happened? do i try to get my parents to fire him and risk that he may actually become a TRUE stalker? (i mean, he DOES know where i live and what i drive.) help!! --------